Add shared build-time instrumentation opt-out to build options

[chargome]

With the orchestrion transform applied automatically at build time, users need a public opt-out (transform breaks a dep, custom OTel setup). No such option exists today.

• Add an opt-out option to the shared build options (buildTimeOptionsBase.ts) and plumb it through sentryOrchestrionPlugin and the @sentry/node/* bundler plugin wrappers
• When disabled, no orchestrion code may end up in the bundle

[linear-code]

JS-3180